Wednesday, February 08, 2012

Things to love about Japan pt 1

It's time to write a few things about what we love about Japan. This is just part 1 in a continuing series of the wonderful things about this wonderful country.

-Customer service--even at McDonalds, they set a standard that all the world should follow
-Airline travel--we look forward to going through airport security. Enough said.
-Moose Hills Burger--Probably the best in Japan. And when all the other burgers are mincemeat, this is a big LOVE.
-Cooking With Dog--This takes on a totally different meaning than the Vietnamese version.

More to follow.

Sunday, January 15, 2012

Travelog--Vietnam/Cambodia

Hey everyone. It's "the aviator." After a couple years of silence, I'm finally breaking into the blogosphere, and in the best way I know how--writing a travelog of our most recent adventure.

I must first disclaim that blogging has not been of keen interest to me. I think after seeing Julie and Julia actually the entire idea of a blog seemed--to put it mildly--not interesting to me. But alas, I love to write, and indeed this isn't just "Current Caitlin" but an account of our family's adventures of which I am of course a part.

So then, we went to Singapore, Vietnam, and Cambodia. What an adventure. It actually started with only a shell plan and nothing solidified until the day we left thanks to another new adventure to us, space-a travel. For the uninitiated, basically the military has flights going all over the world all the time and they have seats on a space available basis. This particular one went to Singapore from where we would pop up and over to Vietnam and Cambodia--free. I think this is the best deal going in the military today, hands down. It's not bad that we literally walked across the street from our house to the terminal and boarded a flight. I rather like it, actually, as it adds an unusual layer of excitement on the trip you're about to take--not knowing where you're going until the morning of!

I knew it would be balmy in Singapore but I didn't know that it was essentially a stone's throw from the Equator. Steamy would be a more apt description--and we went in November! I had heard amazing things about this tiny little city-state, and we were both very excited to see its cleanliness and lavishness. But perhaps living in Tokyo for a year and a half has ruined the appeal of cities for me, for I couldn't see past the street after street of shopping malls, restaurants, shopping malls, and restaurants. Amazing. But not really. I think the very basis of my excitement for traveling is to see things, not to shop. I like to experience the culture, not some sort of blend of Malay & Chinese who are hardly either anymore, and are instead similar enough to Americans that you might forget where you are if you weren't in a car. I travel to broaden my horizons, and certainly not to go to Coffee Bean and Tea Leaf for my morning coffee and TGI Friday's for lunch.

Imagine, then, my excitement to hit Vietnam. Having watched the Vietnam special on Top Gear about hundred times, I was just so eager to see what it had to offer us. And although we wouldn't be traveling south to north on scooters, it would nevertheless be an otherworldly experience I was sure--and it was.

We hit Hanoi first. I expected an explosion of scooters on the streets that descended on every intersection in mass chaos, and it was all that and so much more. But you get used to it, I think? The city itself was remarkable, though, with still a hint of French influence and great culture besides. Really the only thing I wanted to do in Hanoi was see the Hanoi Hilton and do a day trip to Ha Long Bay. The Hanoi Hilton was a total propaganda piece. Amazing, really, that they're still so good at it all these years later. Indeed, it was originally a French prison for Vietnamese dissidents and the former was quite nasty to the latter, but it is most famous for its "housing" of American POWs during the Vietnam War. But rather than acknowledge their awful treatment which the world knows to be true, they portray the POWs as though their near decade long imprisonment was a vacation with pictures of them smiling and having a great time while playing basketball, enjoying thanksgiving dinner, and even receiving presents from Santa on Christmas. I know the U.S. may somewhat begrudgingly admit to its more unsavory history vis a vis the Indian removal and slavery, but at least we own up to it. Vietnam still boldly proclaims that they adhered to all of the Geneva Conventions during the war. I say bull crap.

On a lighter note, we day tripped to Ha Long Bay, which is absolutely deserving of its new status as one of the seven wonders of the world (but the Grand Canyon should have stayed). We went on a perfect day, perfectly clear yet misty enough to provide some drama to the whole thing. It was just breathtaking being out among those multitudinous limestone formations and caves. Suffice it to say, it is a must-see. I couldn't help but notice that on the way back on the bus, there were a total of 7 languages being spoken--Japanese, Vietnamese, French, Finnish, Chinese, and Slovakian, but nearly everyone spoke at least conversational English. I bet the French hate that. And as an unilingual American, I hate it too.

Jetting to Da Nang, we were expecting beachfront paradise but instead only got the three worst weather days of the trip, a beautiful, cavernous but essentially deserted hotel, and a lot of money spent on some questionably fashionable tailor-made clothes. We got accustomed to the hotel but spent our days in Hoi An, the Saville Row of Vietnam, so says Jeremy Clarkson. Copeland travel tip--blow off Da Nang proper and stay at one of the many beautiful Hoi An resorts and enjoy what might be the only tourist town in Vietnam that eschews the brand new high rise buildings and by city ordinance keeps the French colonial influence throughout. And be a bit more choosy in your tailor.

Vietnam was in the end simply wonderful. I arrived full of speculation about the goodness of the people having read all the possible scams that have been pulled on tourists but they proved otherwise. We only encountered wonderful hospitality, and enormous grace when we were not doing somewhat as the Romans. We would go back, maybe even before we leave Japan.

Cambodia, however, was an altogether different experience. We went to see one thing--Angkor Wat. And it was well worth the effort. We actually experienced warmer hospitality and less invasiveness regarding Miles (I think he might lose it if he hears clucking and another Chinese or Vietnamese woman moving toward him), but despite the marvelous temples in the Angkor complex, the absolute destitution of the entire country, even in the most touristy of cities like Siem Reap, sort of weighed heavy on us for our entire visit. It was most pronounced on our bus ride (not recommended, even if it was only $22 total) to Phnom Penh, where we were traveling between this country's two largest cities on roads that were not paved in parts and never more than two lanes, passing tiny farm towns with naked kids scurrying about and literal one-room shanties that housed what I presumed were families of four, six, ten? Who knows. It was eye opening, but still beautiful somehow.

The truth is we only went to Phnom Penh to save on a plane ticket back to Singapore. It was missable, and the only touristy thing we did was visit the Killing Fields and S21, the places where the Khmer Rouge killed tens of thousands of Cambodians during their brief, misguided reign of terror (and idiocy). I'll simply say that a very tall stupa full to the top with human skulls surrounded by mass graves and bone and clothing fragments still strewn about is incredibly sobering indeed. How do things like this happen? Maybe we'll never know, but at least we can PLEASE try to stop it if it ever starts again. By the end of these two weeks, however, we were fairly worn out on poverty all around us, and I think feeling fairly guilty that we were spending on one night in a hotel what the average Cambodian makes in two months. I guess we would go back to Cambodia, but next time not as tourists but as a relief workers or something. It's just hard to be a tourist in that country.

That rounds out that adventure. When we arrived home, again we walked across the street to our silly mutts who were oh so excited to see us.

Pictures on Facebook.

Wednesday, August 17, 2011

Ramblings of a Deployed-Spouse

Well y'all. Miles and I have been hoofing it without the Aviator for the last 2.3 months. :-) But who's counting?
Initially, my feelings about going through a deployment with a wee-one by myself were fear, anxiety, worry, fear... But now that we're on the downhill side of it, I can truthfully say that I wouldn't have had it any other way.  Having a newborn has kept me so busy that there were times (sorry honey) that I would crawl into bed and then realize in a panic that I wasn't signed in on Skype.  I had almost forgotten! How could I forget?!  Well- I was exhausted. What can I say?
The amount of support and love on this base is truly unbelievable.  I don't know about others but I can honestly say that if I've ever needed anything, it's been there.  Even getting my lawn mowed has just happened miraculously.  I love the lawn-mowing fairy or pilot that is taking care of us.  It's such a huge blessing to not have to worry about that right now.  Plus, it's hotter than heck out there.  :-)
I realized something last night.  I was looking for our blender.  I never use our blender. In fact, before my love left, he put it away, off of the counter, out of my way.  Well I decided to make chocolate malts.  But where was the blender? I thought I looked in all of the obvious places but truth-be-told, I had no idea where it was.  Of course, I thought about asking the Smoothie-King husband of mine.  But then I found it.  Just like that.  I hadn't looked hard enough.  And who knows when he would've been able to tell me that it was in the high-cabinet above the fridge? So what I realized was that without him home, I actually am missing half of my brain.  He is my better half after all, so with him away, I'm literally missing half of me.  He helps me remember that it's time to do laundry. He helps me remember that it's time to go grocery shopping. He helps me remember that I need to put the laundry into the dryer.  Seriously.  He helps me remember everything!  :-)
Being away from my man for this long has done a funny thing to me.  I have much more in depth conversations with our son because I'm sure that he is helping me cope with his Daddy being gone.  I still sleep on 'my side' of the bed.  His pillows are stacked neatly on 'his side' of the bed.  His closet doors are still open... I suppose I could close them but then it wouldn't be even because mine are still always going to be open... (Does anyone ACTUALLY open and close their closet doors all day long??)
I know that Miles enjoys my stories because he has taken a very active role in replying to and joining in on them.

Sleep.  Sleep when your hubby is gone is strange too.  I find that I need much more time to wind down at night, sometimes even at 0200 I'm still awake wondering if it's crazy to start another episode of BBCs Top Gear (Thanks LAURA!!! (:  ). I also talk to God a lot more.  I pray more now than I have ever prayed in my life.  I know that He is giving me the strength to be a good Mommy day in and day out.  I know that He is giving me the strength to support my hubby and what he's doing.  I know that He is giving me comfort when I miss the closeness of family.  He has kept us safe and taken care of.  I am so thankful for my God.  He is so awesome.  I love being His daughter. His Grace is all-consuming and for some reason, being away from my best friend and husband, has reminded me of all of this.

I am thankful that this deployment is not as long as it could be.  I have a completely different respect and adoration of my Army, Navy, Marine-sisters.  I know that the Air Force is pretty laid back for the most part and especially on this side of the realm.

I will be so glad to have my man back home with us, safely.

How do you cope with deployments? Your favorite part? Your least favorite part?



Sunday, April 24, 2011

Handsome Baby Boy!

Miles Charles Copeland was born on March 29, 2011 after 26+ hours of labor.  He is an absolute joy and we are thrilled to finally have him in our arms!  I look forward to sharing my birth story but that will have to wait! Here are a couple of pictures of our new little man.




Sunday, March 06, 2011

No Hurry

Today completes my 37th week of pregnancy.  The Aviator has been TDY for all of February and this first part of March so I'm excited to say that he is finally on his way home.  Spending the last 6 weeks as a sort of 'single-lady' has been fun only because of the amazing friends I have here.  I've had a lot of time to think about how I feel about being pregnant, becoming a mom, having children, birth, breastfeeding, etc.  I can honestly say I truly enjoy being pregnant.  Once I got through the sick feeling during the first 17 weeks, it was quickly smooth sailing.  I know it's a blessing to have such an easy go at something that for some women is quite a trial, so I continually thank God for that.  I've made it a point to ignore my Estimated Due Date as a whole. This baby will come whenever it is good and ready to.  Everyone says that you'll reach a point of desperate discomfort but I'm already 3 weeks out from 'the big day' and I can't say I'm desperate yet.  

My heart is at ease with a lot of the issues I was afraid of while delivering on a military base.  I have a bit of a hard time with the fact that whoever is on-call is going to be the lucky doc catching our baby.  After doulaing once here, I see that because it's such a small facility, I really can labor however I want to.  I have really let go of my worries because even if I carve a birth plan out in stone, I really only have control of a few things. 

Example #1- Unless medically indicated/necessary, I will not be induced after my due date.  

Example #2- Barring an insanely long labor or high blood pressure, I will attempt a drug-free birth.  I am approaching this 'attempt' attitude in the same way a person approaches a marathon.  I'm preparing for this.  I'm not just going to show up on race-day, with a brand new pair of shoes but otherwise unprepared for the hard work ahead of me.  

Regarding example #2.  Why in the world do other women feel the need to argue with me about this?  Why do you care if I want to have a natural birth? I don't care that you wanted an epidural. That's your business.  Please don't approach me with questions about wanting a natural birth and then proceed to scold and lecture me about how difficult it is to do.  I get it. And if I don't, let me figure it out on my own. Thanks!! :0D

Anyway- those few things are my pathetic way of 'controlling' things or just letting my body do what God created it to do.  I would like to avoid complications that are avoidable, by avoiding those unnecessary interventions.   

Bottom line:

To our sweet unborn child,

Son or Daughter.  Your Daddy and I love you so much!  We want you to be healthy and ready to come out so please get into position and we'll be ready and waiting for you with loving arms.  

Love,
Mommy & Daddy

Thursday, January 27, 2011

Do you have ANY idea how much babies poop?!

Hey y'all.  I have a hard time believing that January is coming to a close.  Time is flying by so quickly!  We've lived in Japan for over 6 months and it really does feel like home to us.  We always say "home is where the doggies are waiting for us".  And most likely, wherever we go from here in the next 3 years, those doggies will be sitting at Yokota waiting for their family to come home.  :-)

A lot of changes are headed our way in the next 2 months!  Well I suppose one BIG change will cause a lot of little changes?  With baby Copeland due at the end of March, I can already say that the mixed emotions of preparing to become a Mommy to a little person that will grow into a big person with a family of their own, is quite a roller coaster ride.  I guess I just need to get this off of my chest and out in the open.

I am fully aware of the fact that I am a first time mom.  I know that I don't have all of the experiences of a woman who has already had one kid or even has 3.  I don't know if I'm the only pregnant woman that feels this way but I can't help but notice that when other folks hear that we're doing something different, like cloth diapering, or whatever, I always here this "Ooh.. Are you sure you want to do that?  Do you know how much a baby poops when it's first born?"

Hold on a second... NEWS FLASH!  WHAT?! Babies poop!? Please tell me you're joking.  I did not sign up for this mess... Where can I get off of this crazy train?? Oh.. I can't get off here? Or the next stop?? :-)

I've learned an important lesson while living in Yokota.  The first one is that not everyone is excited about childbirth in the way that I am... I acknowledge that.  The second one is that because of the first lesson, I keep my mouth shut now.  If you want to know something, ask.  I don't ever want to come off like a know-it-all.  Because I am not.  I am still just a woman that has as much to learn about life and mothering as the next one.

AND about this Babywise thing... I realize that there is a degree of flexibility that makes it work for some people.  However, Gary Ezzo, as a person, needs to get his facts straight.  And maybe, if you're interested, you can equip yourself with some background info on this man.  You might be surprised by what you find out.

http://www.ezzo.info/ 

So, enough about that.  Just needed a little rant... :-)

Wednesday, December 29, 2010

Babywise, babyfool

I'm reading "Babywise".  I'm reading it so that I can honestly say I disagree with it on my own terms.  So far, there have been several issues with his 'science' or lack-there-of.  The first is found very boldly on page 35.

In reference to babies not having memory, "...Memory function and synapse development depend on the brain receiving highly oxygenated blood which comes from breathing.  Breathing cannot begin until the lungs inflate, which occurs after, not during birth...."
Why is it, Mr. Ezzo, that my husband is bothering to read to our baby as often as possible? Is it a huge waste of time? Or will it just be chance when this newborn baby recognizes his/her father's voice when born?  Is my baby brain dead right now because of the inability to breath?  And tell me, please, that the umbilical chord does in fact carry 'highly oxygenated blood' to the babies EVERY organ and fiber.